the need to abolish Permanent "Life-time" Alimony!
A
call for women's equality!!
"The
probability that we may fail in the struggle ought not
to deter us from the support of a cause we believe to be
just." --Abraham Lincoln
Divorce
and family law is based on an antiquated social custom that it is
a man's responsibility to support women because they are weaker,
incapable of being equal to men, and better equipped to raise
children. This is simply not the case in today's society and our
laws need to be changed to reflect this fact.
The courts declaring that women need to be supported for the
rest of their lives is a slap in the face to all women and a
declaration that they are not "equal" to men. Read "The
Case Against Alimony."
Let it be stated at the outset that our goal
is to abolish the present "lifetime" alimony (a/k/a spousal support) system with all
its inequities
and replace it with a system that represents the present day
reality similar to those of Texas, Indiana and Alaska.
[Read the
proposed revisions to the Florida Statutes]
Alimony and child support are separate forms of support.
This site is not concerned with child support as it is our
contention that if you procreate a child, you are
responsible for its support. This support requirement goes
for both spouses as well. It is the responsibility for both
of you to equally take care of and raise the child you
brought into this world.
In many cases, some help is justified and necessary to provide
rehabilitative support to deserving spouses. But not for a "lifetime." That is
unreasonable in this day and age. The way things stand with
today’s laws, there is abuse, invasion of your private right to determine
your marital relations, the creation of a
state of peonage
and enslavement for the rest of your life.
Read the "Right
to Privacy" written by Brandeis and Warren in 1890
The goal of this site is to reveal the underlying
inequity in
family law. The family laws supposedly created to provide
spouses with an equitable way to dissolve their marriage are, in
reality, multi-billion dollar that benefits the family law
lawyers that represent each side along with the whole legal
industry that is associated with the family court system.
It will also attempt to show you how the granting of alimony
has been been subverted from its original intended purpose to
that of penalizing one spouse and providing a free life-time
meal-ticket to the other ex-spouse not to mention separating one spouse from
their children. But this is a two-edged sword. With about
one-third of the households now having the woman as the
breadwinner, the pendulum is now swinging the other way to where
women can just as likely end up paying "lifetime" alimony to the
men. And those that are paying are more vociferous and outraged
that they should be treated equally the same as the men.
A more insidious result of "lifetime alimony" is that of
it being a leading cause of a
Marriage Strike that will eventually result in the
destruction of the institution of marriage in this country.
For fear of eventual "financial suicide" that divorce
brings, more and more people are foregoing marriage for
cohabitation arrangements and as a result,
40% of children being born today are to unwed mothers.
As a Mother in today's society, how would you feel if
your son were to get married and then divorced only to face
a lifetime of servitude in an ongoing "lifetime alimony
marriage" where there would be no closure to his life and
little likelihood of his ever being able to remarry again.
Would you "really" want to see him suffer for the rest of
his life in such a situation? It is happening everyday to
thousands of men, yet no one tells you about this before
marriage. You only find out how insidious it is after the
divorce is underway. Then there is no escaping it. The
family law courts will have their tentacles in him for the
rest of his life. It is time to change the laws that permit
this.
It is profoundly incomprehensible that our government
would sacrifice thousands of American lives and spend over a
trillion dollars on the freedom of Iraqis and yet remain
paradoxically insensitive to the plight of millions of
American spouses who are held in virtual slavery and peonage
by archaic and oppressive state alimony statutes in
violation of Federal law and the 13th Amendment to the US
Constitution.
Until that happens, for people already caught up in the
system, there are ways to fight back, to
STOP
contempt hearings and keep you out of jail. There are ways to
challenge the courts with the goal of eliminating the alimony
payments. The pages in this website show you what has been done.
You can see the battles waged in family court. It is
an excellent illustration of how a Pro Se (without attorney) can
fare when they fight back. This even applies to taking the fight
to the Courts of
Appeal.
You will also find the lawsuit
challenging the constitutionality of the Florida alimony
statutes, which has been filed by the author of this website,
very educational and enlightening. If you are burdened by alimony payments,
hopefully, it will spur you to do the same.
Read about how the author of this website fought back.
See the ongoing battlefront here and hereand most recently
[July 2008] where the former wife has filed a Motion for Contempt of Court. You too can find out how to fight back by understanding how the
court operates and how you can work within the system. Here are
the books that
are guiding the fight.
"Before
the last 40 years, who ever heard of a lower level civil
court judge having complete control over a person's life
till they died - in America ?
What makes it all the more
unbelievable, to the point of being silly, is that it's over
a broken state marriage license." -- James Darden
